No, i don’t have low self esteem and I do like myself the way i am, but have you ever gotten to that phase where you think you are not beautiful enough? You look at yourself and think you are not tall enough, or you are not fair or have long hair or that you are fat and not slim like the other people you see and the society does not make it easy either, or like me you have these little annoying pimples or acne all over your face that even putting on makeup to cover it won’t help most times, Welcome to my club. I have come to realise that everybody goes through this phase once in a while, I call it the “self degrading phase” where you look at the mirror one faithful day and just notice all the flaws on your body, I mean no one is perfect, but you notice that you have these flaws and start comparing yourself to other people.

I have been feeling this way recently and I decided to share it. I notice the already obvious pimples on my face and become self conscious about it whenever I go out. When this happens, i usually do not want to go out unless I apply makeup so that I could still feel good about myself but I don’t let what I feel show outside because I use smiles to cover it up but what I have come to realise is that I am the one causing myself to feel this way, no one else just me. Like I said this is a phase we all go through at a point in our lives. I see it as a test we must all pass. In order to overcome this feeling , whenever I look at myself in the mirror and notice my flaws, I also let myself notice the good part, such as my complexion, my stature, I might not be slim but at least I have what most people are doing surgery to get😊 I also take care of my self, my skin in particular(read my post about four things a woman must have)

I let myself believe that despite all this, I am still a queen in my own making regardless of how i feel because at the end of the day, you have to be your own motivational speaker. If you don’t believe in yourself or if you don’t love who you are, no one will and you will be giving the society access to your feelings. Now I don’t worry about how i look with the pimples on my face,yes I am treating it because i want a smooth skin but that doesn’t mean I will not do the things i love because of it☺️ you just have to see yourself as beautiful and that because you were able to overcome the “self degrading phase” you are a queen regardless of what anyone thinks. Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

#QueenRegardless. Use this hashtag anywhere to show that you are not giving society access to your feelings and you are a queen regardless of what you have been through.

Have you ever been in this phase before?

What did you do to overcome this ? Any solution or advice for people out there?

If you have any advice or comment to add to this please do not hesitate to COMMENT below.

Love, fheyi