Impostor syndrome is the psychological pattern of doubting one’s accomplishments and fearing being exposed as a “fraud”.

Wikipedia

I believe this is something we have all experienced, because in one way or the other, we have failed to acknowledge all the accomplishments or achievements we have made. I for one have failed to celebrate the little wins I have made this year because I felt I didn’t deserve them. I don’t know why.

Ever since I got a new phone(How My Phone got stolen in a bus) I have been feeling fiercely inadequate. A lot of good things have happened to me recently. From finishing my service year, to getting a new job, celebrating two years on YouTube and finally finding my niche in content creation. Yet I still feel like I’m constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. Most especially when I hear what naysayers say. I have come to realize that people will always talk, whether you do good or bad. obviously they weren’t there when you were slaving away, burning midnight candles, waking up as early as you can to beat the Lagos traffic and constantly fasting and praying to God just to make sure everything works out but when you get a small moment of happiness, they say something that just triggers that feeling of inadequacy.

HOW TO SOLVE THIS ?

I don’t really know if there is a proven method to getting rid of imposter syndrome but what I do whenever I feel this way is to write out all the things I have achieved and if possible, list out what I did to achieve this goals. once I see the hard work put into the activity, it makes me proud and I get to enjoy even if its just a moment of happiness before I move on to the next goal. Another way I overcome this is by singing worship songs and just communicating with God. I find that this gives me peace generally and confidence that all will be well.

I know it’s been a minute since I wrote here but if you also feel this way, let me know in the comment and what you do to get over this feeling. Also share a screenshot of your favorite part on your IG story and tag me (thefeyi_O)

Love,

Fheyi O